Adults often underestimate the complexity, contradiction, and the importance of thirteen abroad, which comes to a child with an impressive luggage of the knowledge and sometimes far from children's issues. And it's not so much a physiological transformation taking place in the child's body, but in the beginning of understanding and comprehension of the truth, the truth, to find that beats all mankind since time immemorial.
Raising a child 13 years even under the most favorable circumstances, when parents and children dominates trust and understanding, the process is very difficult and dangerous for both parties. Old enough to commit an act contrary to the beliefs and understanding of the child, the foundation of trust can date a serious crack "repair" which sometimes is not possible.
In 13 years, people began to notice that until now just escaped his attention - injustice, flattery, hypocrisy - almost all human vices suddenly pop out, forcing the child to rethink all that before this is for him value. And here it is very important that the adults were not included in this list, which requires re-evaluation, and that requires a little bit - just be very frank and honest, not only the child, but also to himself. We must not forget that the education of the child is 13 years primarily by example, in this age, children do not blindly inherit the parents' behavior as it occurs at a younger age, and give every action, every word of his own, the only true definition, which in subsequently converted to the belief and becomes the pivot, the basis of all future life. In addition, at this age, the child begins to notice the game, hidden motives and reasons for every action of parents, analyze results and make conclusions for themselves - what can and can afford to take on arms, but that does not bring the desired benefits and therefore not worthy of his attention

12 years is a very good age for education. Children are balanced and fairly openly communicate. Entrust their secrets to adults and jute help and support.
But gradually enter into life peers. Start forming a team. And because the energy in the child at this age is quite natural to expect a lot of increased activity, creativity, commitment to creativity. In general, start clarifying areas of interest and a light touch to the permissible limits.
Children should not be limited to the 12 years of the school curriculum. During this period, he sided curiosity. Does not matter if he does not bring cases before the end of the half. World studied superficially, as if trying to taste all the dishes.
That the house was an atmosphere of love, despite the mood swings growing person - follow some rules:
1. Minor aggression best ignored. If the film is shown in the acceptable range is better to show that you understand his feelings. "I understand you are now very upset," or "You're angry because they do not get enough sleep."
2. Razgranichte behavior and personality. Evaluate his behavior here and now, not in general. Otherwise, he will feel an injustice to himself. After all, if a child behaves badly - it does not mean it's bad.
3. In general, the education of the child 12 years depends on its reputation in the eyes of other people. Do not humiliate publicly. Minimize the guilt of the child. "I know you did not mean to offend him." No need to complete submission, let him in their own way to fulfill the requirement adult, agree to a compromise.
Often adults say how not to villages, and forget to explain why. What are the consequences of waiting for the child if he would do as he wants? And, finally, how to do it right? Communicate and do it openly. And most importantly, had a great love!